MOTHERS, RAISE WIVES INSTEAD OF BEING MATCHMAKERS by Counselor Adofoli

I am very convinced beyond any doubt that for some daughters the hardest language to speak today is the truth. And the truth is, their mothers have been nothing but a bundle of disappointment to them. Their mothers have woefully failed them by raising them wrongly. They didn't raise them as wives but were busily pushing them into marriage.

No wonder many ladies are not getting marriages. Some got in but failed, whilst others are in but struggling. They were given a bad foundation and on that they grew. This is because most of their mothers lacked the knowledge of being a good wife.

Some wives doing badly in marriage today had single mothers, mothers who never married. These ladies took directions from mothers who have never been to where they were going.

What their mothers were supposed to do was to teach them how to treat other men as their brothers. Teach women how to be ladies. Teach ladies to love themselves, so they won't end up chasing wrong people for love which isn't there. It is easy to find what you know. The question is, how do you find what you don't know?

Because these ladies didn't love themselves, loneliness picks relationships for them. Boredom makes them text wrong people, which eventually ends them up in the wrong arms.

Many don't know that the right attention from the wrong man during a time of loneliness can fool them into thinking the man might be the right one. They start a relationship which feels like heaven on earth in the morning, but at night it feels like they are in hell. What caused them to laugh so much, now makes them cry themselves to sleep.

The garment many young women wear today is expectations and judgments. They are chasing men to meet their personal needs and what people think about them, their choices, etc.

It will surprise you to know young ladies accept marriage proposals on day one without knowing the man, all because their mothers or relatives say “You are getting old”, "He is handsome", "has a good job", or "is from a good home". This is a mistake and needs to be corrected. There is always a difference between knowing someone and hearing about them. Just because you heard about a man doesn't mean you know him.

You need to get to know him, get to know what is behind the face, car, job, house, etc. You will come to realize there is always a wild side to an innocent face.

Mothers need to know, sometimes you don't need a knife to kill someone; a hook up is enough for that. Teach your daughters to be good to the very people around them; her brothers. These brothers know her, love her and understand her better. If she is best for them, she is best for the right man outside. Charity they say begins at home. Don't push her into the arms of a man because she is beautiful but raise her well and a man will find her beautiful.

In conclusion "Do not put your daughter to shame by making her sell the use of her body. Or the land will become full of shame and sin" - Leviticus 19:29 (NLV).

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Thank you for reading. This has been your Counselor and Motivator.

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