Being all over the place does not mean a career woman, a celebrity or people who have made names for themselves in social life, in career or academic ladder.
To the male, being all over the place means being open and available to everything and everyone. It is such a turn-off for the man and he sees such a lady as desperate and vulnerable. It also means someone who is gallivanting, you meet such a person at every place. Today she is at the club, clubbing all night, tomorrow she is at the party, partying hard. The next time she is with that guy, next week she is with the other man. She is everywhere and for everyone. She does not have a life of her own, anything goes.
He won't want to compete with the club over his wife, he won't want to compete with his wife's friends for her company or attention. He doesn’t want her to be influenced by an external person or factor. He won't want to feel jealous because he thinks the wife is too busy for him.
The man wants a woman who will turn his home into a palace for him, because he is king once married; not a woman who leaves the home to build a kingdom elsewhere. Men want to protect their woman, lead them and make them their best friends.
The trouble with man is, he could be out there playing with all sorts of ladies but secretly looking out for someone who is not all over the place and once he finds her, thoughts of marriage becomes more important to him.
There is a lot women can learn from the male's way of thinking rather than insulting them or attacking them. If women will learn to keep their private life private, draw the balance between their social lives and what is personal, lots of men will be happy to spend their lives with them.
Men want their wives hidden in them, for that was where they came from. Eve was hidden in Adam until he was ripe for marriage. That is how males are created, it's not their fault.
When men who found their wives at the club restricted them from going out to these places after marriage, most led to the end of their marriage. There are men who met their wives with lots of friends but once they got married, they tried to cut off these friends and it resulted in conflicts in the marriage.
If ladies will observe closely, there were men they dated for sometime but were shock to find out that the guys broke up with them for no reason and got married to someone elsewhere in no time.
The men might not be dating the one they got married to along with the Ex but in the course of the relationship, they met the new girlfriend and couldn't end the relationship with the old because the old had done nothing wrong. It was just that they don't see them as wives.
There are those who have found the wife already but wanted to have fun so they ended up in secret relationships. Whilst some of these men who find their woman all around want them to change, the ladies feel the man was trying to control them, so they left.
I must also add that having a good marriage or being a good spouse goes beyond being quiet, underground or all over the place. I will urge ladies to learn from the male's rather than fighting them.
In conclusion "let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance" - Proverbs 1:5 (NIV).
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Thank you for reading. This has been your Counselor and Motivator.
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