Love should not make you defile yourself to have a relationship; love should not make you do wrong to be a right person for someone. Love should not make you cry to give someone joy. Love should not make you suffer to make someone happy.
Love is supposed to make your life better, enhance you, promote you, bring the best out of you, move you forward, challenge you to be the best you can. Love is a two way affair. There is no sense in accepting a relationship that will break you so as to make someone whole. It is supposed to make the two whole and not only one.
So before you say "YES", make sure you don't have to compromise to keep the relationship. A one-way relationship hurts, it kills, it is selfish, it has no love and that is not what God wants for you.
The man or woman God has for you or God is preparing you for or for you will balance you in everything. He or she will help build you spiritually; they will stimulate you mentally and satisfy you physically.
If you have to be forced to serve or do something for the one you are in a relationship with, then you are not in love but in slavery. If you have to cook or have sex with your partner because you feel you owe them that, not because you want to do that willingly from the heart, what it means is you are in the wrong relationship.
If you are single going into a relationship or marriage, please avoid anyone who say things to upset you when they are unhappy or mad. People who are careless with their words yet can't stand the same words when it’s coming from someone else.
Say No to anyone who wants you to make them a priority, the most important person but who won't do same for you, and rather choose to treat you as an option. Run away from anyone who does not apologize when they are wrong but will want you to say sorry for things you did wrong.
You have no relationship with anyone who messes with your head and emotions. It's a blessing to wait for who God is preparing for you rather than to waste your time with the wrong person. You got to know the difference between being patient and wasting of time.
Ladies should understand that, being a good woman means sometimes you have to accept that some men are not ready for that real type of love you seek. Don't force them to be what they don't want. If you do, they won't be committed.
It's very sad to see some ladies broken beyond breaking point, destroyed by some men, but these ladies still hold these men down and are willing to fix the man or repair the relationship. However, the story is different for these men.
If she hurts him just once, he gives up entirely. This is because men don't handle things the same way as women. The two are different. Women find it more difficult to end relationships than men. So be sure it is right before you start.
In conclusion "The second most important commandment is this: ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.’ There is no other commandment more important than these two” - Mark 12:31 (GNT).
Please share with your friends, someone out there needs this.
Thank you for reading. This has been your Counselor and Motivator.
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