Qualities you must look out for in a partner before marriage

Gone are the days when parents go all the way to know the family history of who their child is getting married to but that does not mean people no longer research into or get to know their partner before getting married. 

In recent only few people believe in parents match-making their children, as the youths prefer to personally meet the man or the lady they intend spending the rest of their lives with. 

This would enable them study their character so they know if they are compatible or not. 

However, in a relationship men and women need to be very careful in choosing a life partner which is the main essence of courtship before marriage. 

Courtship is said to be the period where lovers get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement or other such agreement.

1. COMMUNICATION: One of the most important foundations of any relationship or marriage is the capability for the spouse to communicate with one another in an open and effective manner. If couples do not communicate either through phone calls and text messages, it clearly states that they do not love each other because communication is key for every successful relationship. Also, sending gifts to your partner is a means of communication. The kind of gifts you send speaks how much you love and appreciate him or her. 

2. SACRIFICE: A relationship without being able to sacrifice or reach a compromise with your spouse is not a healthy one. Relationships are built on love but the strength of a relationship is dependent on sacrifices. When you’re seriously dating someone, you will inevitably need to make some sacrifices for them. This means sometimes doing things you don’t exactly want to do that you know will make your partner happy. However, it’s important to keep in mind that a relationship is also a two-way-street, you shouldn’t be the only one making sacrifices. Your partner needs to make them as well. 

3. RESPECT: Respect in a relationship is replicated in how you treat each other daily. Even if you disagree or have an argument, you should be able to respect and value each other’s opinions and feelings. Also, respect is not about controlling the other party or making them do what you want them to do, rather it is about the freedom to be yourself and to be loved for who you are. It is not enough for him to just show respect for you and your family and friends. You want to see him demonstrating tolerance and basic goodwill to others outside of his social world. 

4. LOVES YOUR FLAWS: We all bring our own baggage from past relationships into the present one but does not means that we should judge our partners with that. When we seek that special someone to share our life with, the disappointments of our past relationships tend to get in the way of new discoveries. One thing all lovers have to understand is that no one is perfect but individually, you can try to be the perfect one. 

5. FAITHFUL: Staying truthful in every relationship will also prevent unnecessary arguments. In most relationships, faithfulness means not having an affair with other people but it is way more than that. Being faithful also means that you have to stay away from romantically investigating your partner. It means you staying away from going through her text messages, monitoring incoming and outgoing calls. Here, each partner should be more bothered with showing unconditional love to each other, plan for the future and flirt with each other. 

6. DOES HE/SHE TRUST YOU?: If you do not trust your partner, there is no way both of you would be happy in a relationship because you have learnt not to believe whatever he or she does talkless of say to you. 

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