How We Are To Have Sex With Our Wives In Accordance To Sunnah - Friday Lecture

QUESTION:

PLEASE HOW ARE WE TO HAVE SEX WITH OUR WIVES IN ACCORDANCE TO THE SUNNAH?

And is it permissible to suck(her breasts) and finger (touch her sexual organ to stimulate her) ?

BISMILLAH

This is a very important topic in our lives as Muslims but unfortunately most of our scholars and alims fail to talk about it due to shyness or its sensitivity.
It’s not something to be talked about in the mosque with a microphone so you barely hear our preachers talking about it.

To answer this question, I will first get some points clear and then provide Hadiths and ayahs to back it later on.

� ✅It’s very important to get your wife aroused before penetration
That’s what’s called pre-intimacy because the prophet had talked about it.
So this is where caressing, kissing, the sucking of Tips and fingering comes in.

�❌Anal sex. Is highly forbidden in Islam
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�⛔MouthAction is undesired and disliked but not haram.
Health-wise, MouthAction could be dangerous sometimes. Women have active and unharmful vaginal bacterials and natural PH(potency of hydrogen) within their genitals which makes it not sound for that place to be licked by the tongue or mouth. This varies from woman to woman regarding the nature and hygiene level.
However, the clitoris could be carefully licked by the tongue but this should be done right after bath and not to be done deeply but don’t forget that it is highly disliked and undesired by some scholars though there are other views that supports and allows that so opinions vary on this matter.
Felacio/MouthAction or the sucking of the male genital organ by the woman is also considered to be unharmful by medical practitioners and acceptable in Islam although opinions vary with regards to this. Bathing and being clean is the first thing to consider before carrying on with it.

So with this, individual desires, conditions, hygiene and personal health conditions counts.

�❌ Intercourse during menses is very bad and haram to the highest level.

�✅ Yes, sexual positions are allowed so far as its in the right place (vagina).
You can try doggy style, spooning and the others if you like instead of sticking to the well known missionary position.

✳Now let’s talk about pre-intimacy

Imam al-Daylami (Allah have mercy on him) records a narration on the authority of Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) is reported to have said: “One of you should not fulfil one’s (sexual) need from one’s wife like an animal, rather there should be between them pre-intimacy of kissing and words.” (Musnad al-Firdaws Of al-Daylami, 2/55)

Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (Allah have mercy on him) reports in his famous “Tibb al-Nabawi” that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) forbade from engaging in sexual intercourse before pre-intimacy. (See: al-Tibb al-Nabawi, 183, from Jabir ibn Abd Allah

There are no rules and laws in pre-intimacy as to how it should be done. The only laws and rules are the ones reached by the lovers by mutual consent and often unspoken understanding. Whatever is pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and the wife is right and proper; and whatever is mutually displeasing is wrong. The only limitation to this general rule would be any Shariah rule which goes against the wishes of the husband or the wife.

pre-intimacy is Highly Recommended
Islam emphasizes on pre-intimacy. Imam ‘Ali (A.S.) says, “When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled).”

� 1 Sex without pre-intimacy has been equated to cruelty. The Prophet (S) said, “Three people are cruel: …a person who has sex with his wife before pre-intimacy.”
� 2 Another hadith equates sex without pre-intimacy to animal behavior: “When anyone of you has sex with his wife, then he should not go to her like birds; instead he should be slow and delaying.”

I rest my case

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