I find it embarrassing to hear ladies ask me "Counselor, what can I do to win his love?, What can I do to have him? I want him but he says he loves someone else. I can't let him go but he says he has moved on". These are the words of desperate women. If you find yourself saying these words, then this message is perfect for you.
There is a reason why you mean so much to God, it is not just because you were created in His image, but also because of your assignment here on earth. There is something God created you for, you have your signature on that, no one can do it except you. You are a need to God.
In the same way you should be a need to a man who wants to settle down with you as a wife. What is it about you that he can't live you for any woman? Until a man finds that, you are not worth keeping as his woman.
It is sad to know many young ladies are struggling so much with untold pressure on themselves just to become a want to a man. How do you expect such a man to treat you? How do you expect such a man to make you a priority when you came in as an option?
How do you expect this man to see you as the most valuable thing in their lives when you presented yourself as the cheapest commodity he has ever been given freely? How can he value you when he does not know your value or your need in his life? Such a man won't chase you and you chasing him won't work.
There are plenty women in this world, some are more beautiful than you, taller than you, have more boobs and butt than you, but in the midst of all that, there is something special about you which makes you stand out and unique; until a man finds that in you, you are not worth being the most important person in his life.
When he sees you as a need and cannot get that in any other woman, he is ready to leave his parents for you, say bye to his friends for you. Cut off all the other women for you. If you are in a relationship where you have to beg your man to take you to their family, introduce you to their friends, get married to you, then it means you are with the wrong person.
Love is about valuing things, the more valuable they are to you, the more you care for them, when you become the most valuable; that is what makes you special amongst the rest, that is what makes you stand on top, that is when you become his need.
A man who sees you as a need can never get enough of you and you will never be too much for him. He has a vast room in his heart to accommodate your madness, your childishness, your silly talks, your petty argument and temper, your mood swing.
He will continue to love you no matter what you do. That is a man who has love for you, you don't have to chase what is yours. If someone you like has not found that in you, don't force to have them or stay with them. Let that person go, it will make a way for the right person.
It is better than getting comfortable with fake love, a bad relationship to the extent that you believe there is nothing like true love or a good relationship. Fake love and bad relationship have something in common, it is called hurt.
In Conclusion "If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems! Her husband can trust her, and she will richly satisfy his needs. She will not hinder him but help him all her life" - Proverbs 31:10-12 (TLB).
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Thank you for reading. This has been your Counselor and Motivator.
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